December brought two new things along with chilly days, breezy mornings and some happy and sad times in office as well. Second half of the year is normally special for me. God waits for the second half either to hit me or to give more joy ! Why not, after all he is GOD !
My soul, my best friend got operated. Suddenly a pin hole in the heart was discovered by the doctor when she went for the check up as she used to feel tired always. She was told to get the open heart surgery done as soon as possible which also caused pain in my brain as well. So I mentioned her as my soul. The operation was successful. I was the strongest person in the whole circle who cares for her and were present during the operation. I was wiping her family’s tears, but digesting the pain in my heart. But my heart was so heavy that it broke down into tears when the doctor said, operation done and she is alright. I would have sacrificed my life to save her life, if required. Even in my next life, I want to be friend for all my four best friends. I think this is what we call the real bonding. The bonding is so wide and tight that even the families are equally attached with each other.
Another happy ending story of my long time dream of meeting a famous personality. It was a long waiting for almost 8 years. Though I had collected even a small bit of information about the person, I couldn’t collect the contact details. Finally, like every year, God surprised me by giving whatever that was required. I took a month almost to meet him and talk to him, after getting the contact details. We spoke, spoke and spoke for hours together like never before. Let me see how long I hold this relationship close to me. Ofcourse, he is a famous personality, having good number of fans. How will I be special ? It's good, if friendship grows in a very healthy way.
Thank you God ! :-) See, I solute you every day without asking everything, so u give me all I want…but why do u select second half of the year ?? Tell me if u feel like sharing with me.
The worst is getting better, and the better is getting worst. Some happy times, some sad times, it’s a part of life. I have learnt a lot during this one year period. Finally decided not to give so much space to anybody which can inturn hurt me. Many came, many went, after all, life is a journey.
Am waiting again for the second half of the year, which brings me happiness and lot of surprises again..Hurray !!
Early happy new year to all my friends..!!!
Monday, December 21, 2009
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Am I with a right partner?
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
His Birthday
The hot tea was dripping inside throat. I am sitting near the window and watching kids paying in the garden. Wanted to call them inside as it was drizzling but they looked careless of getting wet.
The calendar on the table grabbed my attention. It is 21st November today. I grew old over the years, crossed many stages in life, saw quite a few ups and downs, but still the day is clear in my memory when I took part in my friend’s birthday.
The first meet was very casual and somehow I didn’t like the shirt what he was wearing. I came to know his name by an email dropped in my mail box early in the morning saying its his birthday today. I don’t know what made me to wish him immediately, just did that as if I know him since years..! Who knew he will become a part of my life in the future ! All I noticed was his smile !
He was a perfect blend of maturity, intelligence and smart. Just that he has created a wall around him so that he can get away from all the troubles which can affect him and his family. No one knew what he is from deep inside. But somehow he was an open book for me, I read him line by line, word by word. He is sweet, caring and also a responsible guy. The cutest of all was his smile.
I took almost 2 years to get him out of that shell. I didn’t believe my ears when he called me his girlfriend. He celebrated his birthday twice in those years, I wanted to be alone with him on that day, which never happened. I used to be very naughty with him, careless about his reactions. But then he accepted me as I am.
Years gone, became close, so close that he used to advice me what medicine to take during difficult periods. There was nothing which have I hidden from him and same with him too. In the mean time, another girl entered his life on his big day of life. Though I didn’t attend the function, I was sitting somewhere alone and wishing for all the success and happiness for the future. For sometime we were in touch through mails and calls, it gradually reduced later. Last time I met him was to receive the invitation and wished him luck with a warm hug. But then he was blind to see my tears. ! Yes, he was going away day by day.
Last week, when I was shopping for vegetables in the market, a familiar voice got into my ears, and I just turned back. It was him with a lady next to him. May be his wife. While I was still wondering should I go and talk to him, he looked at me and he almost screamed ! He is still the same, except lot of weight and almost no hair on his head. But then, his million dollar smile, for which I used to admire him a lot, has the same sweetness. I took a long breath as my heart was beating twice than the normal. He came near me and introduced his wife. My eyes were searching for something, he noticed that, I guess and he said kids are with mom..! I had a lot to talk to him, but somehow my tongue refused to do its part. I just swallowed everything and came home back. I even forgot to give them address though I invited them home.
And today its his birthday, I wanted to wish him, but I don’t have his number. I looked outside, the rain has stopped and children were still playing. Everything is still the same just that years gone by and everything has become a memory. My wishes remained as wishes forever.
The calendar on the table grabbed my attention. It is 21st November today. I grew old over the years, crossed many stages in life, saw quite a few ups and downs, but still the day is clear in my memory when I took part in my friend’s birthday.
The first meet was very casual and somehow I didn’t like the shirt what he was wearing. I came to know his name by an email dropped in my mail box early in the morning saying its his birthday today. I don’t know what made me to wish him immediately, just did that as if I know him since years..! Who knew he will become a part of my life in the future ! All I noticed was his smile !
He was a perfect blend of maturity, intelligence and smart. Just that he has created a wall around him so that he can get away from all the troubles which can affect him and his family. No one knew what he is from deep inside. But somehow he was an open book for me, I read him line by line, word by word. He is sweet, caring and also a responsible guy. The cutest of all was his smile.
I took almost 2 years to get him out of that shell. I didn’t believe my ears when he called me his girlfriend. He celebrated his birthday twice in those years, I wanted to be alone with him on that day, which never happened. I used to be very naughty with him, careless about his reactions. But then he accepted me as I am.
Years gone, became close, so close that he used to advice me what medicine to take during difficult periods. There was nothing which have I hidden from him and same with him too. In the mean time, another girl entered his life on his big day of life. Though I didn’t attend the function, I was sitting somewhere alone and wishing for all the success and happiness for the future. For sometime we were in touch through mails and calls, it gradually reduced later. Last time I met him was to receive the invitation and wished him luck with a warm hug. But then he was blind to see my tears. ! Yes, he was going away day by day.
Last week, when I was shopping for vegetables in the market, a familiar voice got into my ears, and I just turned back. It was him with a lady next to him. May be his wife. While I was still wondering should I go and talk to him, he looked at me and he almost screamed ! He is still the same, except lot of weight and almost no hair on his head. But then, his million dollar smile, for which I used to admire him a lot, has the same sweetness. I took a long breath as my heart was beating twice than the normal. He came near me and introduced his wife. My eyes were searching for something, he noticed that, I guess and he said kids are with mom..! I had a lot to talk to him, but somehow my tongue refused to do its part. I just swallowed everything and came home back. I even forgot to give them address though I invited them home.
And today its his birthday, I wanted to wish him, but I don’t have his number. I looked outside, the rain has stopped and children were still playing. Everything is still the same just that years gone by and everything has become a memory. My wishes remained as wishes forever.
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