Amruthavarshini

Best friends for life !

2012-01-19T01:51:00.000-08:00

How much a female can be a part of males life as “best friend” ?

I get to hear the bollywood mantra that “a girl and a boy can never be only friends” !!..not in all the cases ! Agree that not only best friends, but much more to it than just falling in love.

One such case infront of my eyes. Relationship took too many turns and the outcome was a shock !

They were colleagues, became good friends and then best friends in a very short span of time. He was younger to her and was more attached to her. For smaller to smaller needs, there was a dependency on each other. It was surely not LOVE ! She used to care for him along with his parents. She was well accepted by his parents also as a daughter.

Once he saw a baby picture on her desktop and did a sketch of it to gift her. She was in tears when she received his first gift. The relationship was so deep that she used to sense if he is in trouble. She was everything to him, a sister, a friend, a guide, a mother and a mentor as well. Many talents he had which he himself didn’t know, was recognized and appreciated by her. He was so close to her that he never wanted to have more friends. It was an open relationship known to all. One strange thing which always happened was, she used to dream about him as he is in trouble and asking for her help. Second she always wanted to be with him on his birthday, which never happened. So she always bought two gifts – one of his choice, and one hers.

Everything should come to an end.

He left the job and joined another company. This was just a physical distance but gradually distance increased. His parents were looking for alliances for him and he had to travel to US on his work. She was in total dark not knowing what is actually happening. Either he was busy or ignoring, but they lost touch for months. One fine day, she herself went to his parents place to know if they are doing good bcos son was in US. It was a bad day – she saw him sitting inside along with his parents. She was shocked that he never told her also when he came back from US. Later his mother also told that he got operated on appendicitis and his marriage was fixed !!!!! She was not aware on any of these. Obvious she was hurt for the fact atleast he could have informed on this health. It was a bad hit on “Best Friend” relation. She was angry on all the three and came out of the house. Surprisingly, he also didn’t try to call her back.

Wedding went well, but “best friends” never met. Almost an year, they didn’t talk…both were expecting other to give up and come back. But she used to get same old dreams like he is in trouble and he needs her help. She tried contacting his parents to know his whereabouts. He was happy in his married life, but she was hurt, burnt and suffered….

New year day..

She tried, but never succeeded in forgetting him for one year. So she thought of calling him to patch up again, by ignoring whatever happened. For various reasons, he didn’t feel like patching up again. She felt the heat of the rejection but couldn’t do much. But it was a jerk for her that he will never be back in her life.

Twist in the story…

One more woman in her workplace, devotee of Ravishankar Guruji, has excelled in deep meditation and spiritual power since 10 years, cracked a mystery of their life. She told everything what she feels for him and why !

Why she had suffered a lot because of him, why she used to do extra care, why she did fasting when he was not able to clear MBA how she was able to sense whenever he was in trouble, why she just can’t hate him or forget him, why every second her mind thinks about him, why she felt all his pains…

He was an abnormal child in his past life who died as baby and SHE was his MOTHER in her past life !!!

She was still carrying those cosmic rays in the present life, and could not come out of the motherly affection in the next life also. He didn’t realize all these and never bothered also.

Sad part of her is…. she knows he is in trouble now also and the reason for the problems, but helpless to do anything for him because of the distance he is maintaining. Her mother heart is not able to tolerate this, but nothing can be done apart from wishing good for him.

That friend/mother is still waiting anxiously for her best friend/child to come back to her. This past life mystery will haunt her through-out of her life.

Best friend of this life was a child in past life !!!

Finally it happened…

2010-10-31T10:28:00.000-07:00

Paul the Octopus is no more… Paul died in sleep, they say, but GOD knows how !

Paul became internationally famous for correctly predicting the winner of each Germany's seven matches at the 2010 World Cup, as well as the final. Paul's selections were designed so that he was presented with two boxes containing food in the form of a mussel, each box marked on the outside with the flag of a national football team in an upcoming match. His choice of which mussel to eat first was taken as indicating his prediction of a win for the country whose flag was on that box.

Isn’t it amazing ? An animal predicting the winner of the foot ball world cup ! Well, former Argentina coach Diego Maradona instead found the Paul as psychic and was glad that he is dead.

Opinion differs !!

Finally it happened…

I never saw my workplace how it looks after 9 pm. This is really crazy that I had to stretch for more than 14 hours without break..! Had a long drive all the way in the night from my office to my sister’s place which is close to some 22 kms. One of the bad days in my career. Stress and politics lead to frustration and feel like walking out of the place.

Finally it happened…

One of my best friends broke up with her boy friend after some 5 break-up & patch-ups in 4 months period. And the reason being, her status on FB was ‘looking for friendship’ (mind it, it was not relationship). Another reason was, he gifted a precious diamond ring and she wore it on a middle finger. I can understand, if she denies wearing on the ring finger, but he took a decision to ditch her bcos she didn’t wear. Instead he could have told her not to wear when she was checking the ring size.

Was wondering, if the relationships are so sensitive, why people get into relationships and if the basic trust doesn’t exist from the day one, how can the so called, LOVE grew so much. !! If the love is so strong and divine, why it breaks up for silly reasons like this.

Finally it happened…

Thought of moving on with life, with what I get. I get what I deserve is a simple logic. Personal or professional life, one has to be strong enough to face challenges and get on with it. May be it sounds like more of a preach, but its true that one comes alone to this world, and goes alone. The more we are attached to the people around us, the more we get hurt.

How to deal with annoying people

2010-09-26T21:14:00.000-07:00

Pests are a reality of life! Here's how you can deal with them.

All of us have encountered annoying people at some point or the other in our lives. Whether it's a clingy friend, irritating co-worker, relatives that we don't like etc. And whether we like it or not, we just can't eliminate them from our lives completely. What we really need to do is, deal with them effectively.

Here are some tips:
Listen: Most conflicts are based on misunderstandings. And misunderstandings require clarifications i.e. spending even more time with someone, you'd rather not be with. Hence, listening will help you avoid having to spend further time with people who annoy you.

Ignoring: Ignoring is a very common strategy used to deal with annoying people, but definitely not the most effective. If someone is bothering you, but you do not wish to get into any argument or unpleasantness, ignoring the person is a reasonably fair option. That way you can safely avoid them without a confrontation.

Being Honest: Sometimes, people just don't seem to understand the hints you've been dropping. That's because he or she might still be under the false impression that you enjoy their company. If a person get too pushy, it is best to be honest with them about how do you feel. But, beware of sounding rude.

Keeping it cool: It's quite natural to want to argue with those who annoy you. However, by doing so, you will lose your cool and other person will still not get your point. During a heated-discussion there is no scope for a logical conversation, as neither party is interested in understanding the other's point of view. A better option is to walk away and resume the conversation only when you are in a better frame of mind.

My blood donation

2010-09-13T04:33:00.000-07:00

It was a shock for me when Anil messaged me asking for A+ blood donation as his dad was serious and got admitted in Apollo. God knows how this guy manages to protect 3 families (his own, aunt’s and sister’s) being the only person to earn. His dad was sick since 3 months, with a poor performance of all the parts of his body.

Immediately I called him to check when I can go to donate blood. Pramod and Dileep also agreed to donate blood along with me. I must appreciate my husband Pramod for his open mind though he had issues with Anil sometime back, he came forward to donate blood. The girl in the lab tested my blood and declared that I have a good count of hemoglobin. I was feeling somewhat in the heaven for the fact that my blood is going to save somebody’s life. I feel happier and content this way. This gives me more satisfaction than any treasure in the world. While the lab assistant was extracting my blood, I was thinking someone in the world is going to be my “blood relative” without knowing each other. It’s a feel good factor for me.

I reached home after a while, sent the message to all my friends. But got to know that his dad passed away in that duration when we were in the hospital itself. I felt really bad for Anil, even after so much of effort, he could not save his dad’s life. Uncle’s kidney was failed previous night and that day itself the lungs stopped functioning. Somehow I felt as if I lost somebody in my family itself. It’s painful to see somebody moving away infront of our eyes.

Last time when I spoke to him was during Rashmi’s wedding. He wanted to search for a good guy for me assuming I was not married. On the way back to home after the wedding, I invited Aunty and Uncle to visit my place, but they promised me to make it someother day. The “someother day” never came again. ! Losing husband on the very next day of Gowri festival is horrible to any women, as this is supposed to be the pooja to pray for husband’s long life. I can imagine what Aunty must be going through.

Full day I was feeling low, Pramod took me to watch movie, but my mind was still in Apollo, thinking how we could have saved him. May the soul rest in peace and may god give strength to Anil’s family to bear the loss of uncle’s death.

I have decided to give my blood once in 3 months and to donate all useful parts of my body, so that even after death I can be of help to others.

Silence speaks...only when u stop talking !

2010-09-01T22:43:00.000-07:00

I swear I don’t know what made me to think why trees are green ! I know it’s very stupid to think, but why ? Why can’t be blue. Suddenly my science teacher of my school days, Ratnakar Sir, came infront of my eyes with a long stick. I do remember, Chlorophyll gives plants their green colour. But the chlorophyll could be blue also, could be red also. All mads ! The rain has just stopped, the jack fruit tree behind my apartment is looking even more greener. So fresh, pleasing to eyes. But I personally don’t like green, like Mamta does. She is the limit, she used to buy eraser for the drawing class which has only green cover on it. I like white of all, and also sky blue. Sky blue attracts me more in dozens of colours, I don’t even remember how many blue color dress/saree I have. Blue reminds me of sky, the cloud, the clean, the purity, the openness and white reminds me of milky bar I ever liked, the moon, my favourite. Full moon is the best part of my life, I can spend hours together watching the beautiful moon, and listening to the mild romantic music adds on. If Moon was a man, I would have got married to him. I had read somewhere, that if somebody loves somebody, and if they want to convey something to that somebody, they can express the same to moon and moon will pass that message to the other someone who is also watching the moon at that moment. But my question is why do we need moon to pass the message, as you need to wait one day in a month to express something to someone. The technology is so advanced, we can use cell phone, in a second, the message has reached ! Or even just dial and talk. Talk, talk and talk till u collapse.

By the way, all my friends say am very talkative…is that so ?

Geet, the song of my life

2010-09-01T12:46:00.000-07:00

She asked me Nth time that are we getting married, honestly I was not annoyded, but I found her cute with that innocent face I ever liked. I pushed the hair which was kissing her forehead n said, “yes honey, we are getting married” She immediately responded, “Okay, am sooo happy..we shall go for shopping, u’ll buy me saree, kangan, mangalsutra, one more saree, and one jamoon ice cream after the shopping…pleaaaase “. I must say, girls are girls, no one can beat them. Shopping is more exciting than the ceremony. I remember my mom, who used to wear kilos of golds and glittering sarees for all the functions, not sure whether it was to show her collections or she used to feel happy with them on.

Geet, my only girl friend, like the Kareena of “Jab we met”, Kajol of “My name is Khan” and Minisha of “Bachna yeh haseeno”. She goes non stop talking, I bet you cant stop her if she wants to say something. I liked her smile the most. She was my junior in the collage. When Theju was explaining how he was caught by his dad while smoking previous night on the balcony of his house, Geet just passed infront of me in the corridor. Something just pulled me…I felt it. She was wearing a pink tshirt on faded blue jean, with matching ear rings, bracelet and white shoes. I don’t think she ever noticed anybody around her, she was just gossipping with her friend, abt Ranbir Kapoor, I guess. That cute smile attracted me towards her like a magnet. She was pushing her short hair back as it was distrubing her a lot.

I wanted to know who is she and which class is she in. Theju was still going on with the next continued story of how his girlfriend pampered him after the scoldings of his dad. I ignored him and started following Geet like am in trance. She didn’t bother much to look at me, she entered the class room with her friends. I cursed myself first time being senior, as I coudnt enter the class. She was in first year of Bcom and me in final year. I just made up my mind to bunk the class this time, just to watch her talking. I never knew she will become a nonstop FM Radio of my life. Yes, she has everything to say, like music, the news, the stories, gossips, movies, etc etc.

Believe me, I didn’t take much time to get along with her. Her nature itself is like that. Like an open book, clean heart and hundrands of “Best Friends” !! One thing I hated in her was her reading habits. She is a book freak, and I hate to read the text book also. I took her to the collage canteen many a times, used to watch when she sips tea, somehow controlled myself to wipe that extra drop on her lipls from my lips. I don’t think she will ever realise I was mad for her from the day I saw her. She looks like an angel for me, only the wings and the magic wand were lacking. !

Just after the first exam, she came running to me when I was standing in a corner waiting for her. That time Theju was almost mad abt his girlfriend and was planning for the wedding. So I was left alone. I was not like Geet. I had very few friends bcos I believe I can accommodate only very few for whom I can be anything and everything. Geet’s best friends list was very big like a checklist of a wedding. I always wondered how she manages everybody equally. Collage, parents, tutions, music class, drama class, library, friends, friends and more friends.

Geet came running to me, I could guess that she has given her best in the exam. I patted her back like I do to my nephew when he comes out with A grade in his class 2. It’s a God gift to her, I guess. I never saw her cribbing about anything, everything looks good, everything feels good, everyone is good for her. Yes, she is blessed with that quality.

Luckily I had only one year to clear the exam and get a degree, otherwise I would have flunked many times running behind Geet and dreaming about her all the time. Needless to say we were in deep love. If I don’t see her a single day, I used to go mad. Forcefully I made friendship with her best friend Mary, just to keep track of Geet when she is not available for me. Thank God, she never realised that, poor girl, she always used to think how good am by heart that I accepted her friend as my friend. Anyways, that’s not important for me. Am sure she would have told Mary how I tried kissing her when she was walking along with me in the dark on the way to her music class.

Days gone, I got a job in HDFC bank as a consultant. Geet also had finished her final year of B.Com, and she wanted to study further. Last week Dad called me to the reading room to discuss something abt his balance sheet. I found that little fishy when he pushed his laptop towards me with few photos open. All girls, beautiful girls in different poses. Mumma screamed from Kitchen..”show him all please..” Yes, they were planning for my wedding. I looked around, Geet appeared on the screen with the same smile, asking me to select her. How I do tell Dad that I have a girl friend and want to get married to her. I caughed gently and tried to open my mouth. Dad was starring at me, I guess, I was looking at the photo frame where Dad and Mumma are holding me togther when I was 2 years old. I’m the only child, so they had high hopes on me. But now I have no other go, I have to tell them that Geet is my girl forever.

I said, “Dad, I want to tell you something, if you don’t mind.”

My Dad is very intelligent and sensitive to others feelings. He called Mumma also as he too found me little weird today. Finally I opened up myself to talk about Geet. Geet is a also a Punjabi girl so I had hope in the corner that they might agree.

Mumma looked at Dad and Dad removed his spects and held my hand. I was shivering lightly as I know something is going to happen now, but don’t know what.

Dad said, “Invite her for tea today, want to meet her before fixing the wedding date. I also need to talk to her parents”

I jumped and hugged my Dad, and thanked God zillion times for blessing me with all I wanted. The rest was all like a dream when my parents met her parents, liked each others family and agreed on a date for the wedding.

As promised, I took my girl for shopping…she will be my wife forever. Yes, I got her Jamoom and Ice cream after the shopping of dozens of sarees, KGs of gold, matching purse, slippers, etc.

Music Therepy - for all the moods

2010-03-03T08:59:00.000-08:00

Music is a significant mood-changer and reliever of stress, working on many levels at once. Though everyone has different tastes in music, listening to the music make you feel comfortable, sounds can soothe you, fire your imagination, bring you to the heights of ecstasy or bring you down to the depths of your soul.

Many experts suggest that it is the rhythm of the music or the beat that has the calming effect on us although we may not be very conscious about it. They point out that when we were a baby in our mother's womb, we probably were influenced by the heartbeat of our mother. We respond to the soothing music at later stages in life, perhaps associating it with the safe, relaxing, protective environment provided by our mother.

If your boss, friend, neighbor, or family member is causing you emotional distress, do some research and figure out new ways to deal with people. Otherwise listening to music does wonder to alleviate stress. Playing music in the background while we are working, seemingly unaware of the music itself, has been found to reduce the stress. Music was found to reduce the pain during dental procedures.

Take walks with your favorite music playing on the walkman. Inhale and exhale in tune with the music. Let the music takes you. This is a great stress reliever by combining exercise (brisk walk), imagery and music. Listening to the sounds of nature, such as ocean waves or the calm of a deep forest, can reduce stress. Try taking a 15- to 20-minute walk if you're near the seashore or a quiet patch of woods. If not, you can buy tapes of these sounds in many music stores.

A group of London based physicians has scientifically experimented on different aspects of music therapy. In their views, the shastric ragas could induce healing of all kinds of ailments. music therapy based on classical ragas is being used or advised these days for the treatment of insomnia, migraine, hypertension, chronic headache, anxiety, etc. and empowers the immune system as well as the auto-regulatory healing mechanism of the body.

The empirical studies on therapeutic evaluation of the classical ragas have shown interesting results.

Singing or engrossed listening of Raga Bhairavi has been found to uproot the diseases of kapha dosha e.g. asthma, chronic cold, cough, tuberculosis, some of the sinus and chest related problems etc. Bol radha bol sangam hoga ke nahin – Sangam; Ramiya vasta vaiya - Shri 420; Bhor bhaye panghatpe - Satyam Shivam Sundaram

Raga Asavari is effective in eliminating the impurities of blood and related diseases. Mujhe galese lagalo bahut udas hun main - Aaj aur Kaal; Chale jana nahin naina milake - Badi Bahen

Raga Malhar pacifies anger, excessive mental excitements and mental instability. Ghata ghana ghora ghora – Tansen; Dukhabhare din bite re bhaiya - Mother India

Raga Saurat and raga Jaijaivanti have also been found effective in curing mental disorders and calming the mind. Yeh dilki lagi kam kya hogi - Mugal e Azam; Manmohana bade jhuthe - Seema

Raga Hindola helps sharpening the memory and focussing mental concentration. It has been proved effective in curing liver ailmendts.

Ragas such as Ahirbhairav and Todi are prescribed for those who suffer from hypertension. Tori Jai Jai Kartaar - Baiju Bawra; Mai to ek khvab hun - Himalaya Ki God Me; Khuda e baratara teri jaminpar - Taj Mahal

To control anger and bring down violence within oneself, Carnatic ragas like Punnagavarali, Sahana and so on, come handy.

Stomach-related disorders are said to be cured with some Hindustani ragas such as Deepak (acidity) and Jaunpuri (constipation) and Malkauns or Hindolam (intestinal gas and fever). Simple iterative musical rhythms with low pitched swaras, as in bhajans are capable of relaxation, as observed with the alpha-levels of the brain waves. They may also lead to favourable hormonal changes in the system.

Express Yourself

2010-02-25T20:46:00.000-08:00

Finally I selected the unusual way of communicating with a bestest friend as nothing is working out at this moment. Let me clarify one thing first that I don’t have anything to conclude here. Just another way of expressing myself.

Am sure by now you must be wondering why I have stopped talking to you. Did you take sometime to think as what could be wrong “between us” ? No. I got to know this from your reply yday. I too realized that you still remain as a child, who is not bothered about the happening around you.

See friend, I have lot of friends, some are just friends, some are good and few are best friends. You always belonged to the bestest category. But somehow I never understood your priorities in life. I don’t need friends in my happy times like dropping me home, going for a movie, to do masti, outings or even for shopping. I have the whole world with me to do the honor. I need my best friends when I’m in trouble and in the need of a helping hand. It might be a moral or physical support. But I need somebody beside me.

Take a look back, u were never there as my support. Not even as a moral support ever. I know am repeating this sentence, god knows how many times. But this time, I was very very pissed off by your reaction. I was in the deep shit and I needed your help. You didn’t even care to ask me, rather u blindly told me to “ignore”, which is very easy to advice, but to follow. I was suffering for no mistakes of mine, that too the blame was on my character, which is never acceptable for me. If you have a sister, who is facing the same problem, would it be the same reaction for her also ? I know you were also in a bad mood with lot of problems, but that doesn’t mean that u should not even ask a pal what shit is she going through.

If you remember, I fought with one of my friends, just bcos she talked bad abt you infront of me, I argued on your behalf and left talking to her just like that. Why I should do all these? Do I look like problem free person ? My heart cares and cries for my people, I do best for them. We spend time talking abt moon, rain and all bull shits which are of no use practically. U didn’t even feel like telling me that you are there with me, as a pal always. Now u say, that goes without saying, by default, right ? My dear, it is required at times. Am not at all upset with my so called friends (except few), bcos I don’t care for their concern abt me. But you ? We do have a healthy relation much more than just friendship, u agree ? I was always involved in your day-to-day life, issues, health, job, etc etc. Did u ask me to do all these ever ? Am I wrong in expecting a pinch of it when am really in need of u ? Do you think I expect a LOT from you ?

What did u understand when I said, I have to fight alone now ? Didn’t u feel am asking for ur support ? Now the issue has ended with the resignation by making myself bad and rude. That could have been ended, smoothly with ur help. I wanted to use your contacts to take it out from the base. But before I ask, you ended the topic saying nothing can be done, that was a cold reaction which I never expected from a friend like you. Trust me, am deeply hurt.

But anyways, I donno how much it has effected your inner feelings that am not talking to you. But never mind, I can’t hate you also. My feelings for you remain same for ever, but with a wet heart.

That’s all I wanted to communicate to you end of the day, but cudn’t do it orally. As I said I don’t want to conclude anything here. The life goes on as it was, your parents are my parents, your problems are my problems. I still care for you and will be doing in the future as well.

Take your call, and do whatever you want to express yourself.

Happy days again !!

2009-12-21T23:10:00.000-08:00

December brought two new things along with chilly days, breezy mornings and some happy and sad times in office as well. Second half of the year is normally special for me. God waits for the second half either to hit me or to give more joy ! Why not, after all he is GOD !

My soul, my best friend got operated. Suddenly a pin hole in the heart was discovered by the doctor when she went for the check up as she used to feel tired always. She was told to get the open heart surgery done as soon as possible which also caused pain in my brain as well. So I mentioned her as my soul. The operation was successful. I was the strongest person in the whole circle who cares for her and were present during the operation. I was wiping her family’s tears, but digesting the pain in my heart. But my heart was so heavy that it broke down into tears when the doctor said, operation done and she is alright. I would have sacrificed my life to save her life, if required. Even in my next life, I want to be friend for all my four best friends. I think this is what we call the real bonding. The bonding is so wide and tight that even the families are equally attached with each other.

Another happy ending story of my long time dream of meeting a famous personality. It was a long waiting for almost 8 years. Though I had collected even a small bit of information about the person, I couldn’t collect the contact details. Finally, like every year, God surprised me by giving whatever that was required. I took a month almost to meet him and talk to him, after getting the contact details. We spoke, spoke and spoke for hours together like never before. Let me see how long I hold this relationship close to me. Ofcourse, he is a famous personality, having good number of fans. How will I be special ? It's good, if friendship grows in a very healthy way.

Thank you God ! :-) See, I solute you every day without asking everything, so u give me all I want…but why do u select second half of the year ?? Tell me if u feel like sharing with me.

The worst is getting better, and the better is getting worst. Some happy times, some sad times, it’s a part of life. I have learnt a lot during this one year period. Finally decided not to give so much space to anybody which can inturn hurt me. Many came, many went, after all, life is a journey.

Am waiting again for the second half of the year, which brings me happiness and lot of surprises again..Hurray !!

Early happy new year to all my friends..!!!

Am I with a right partner?

2009-12-09T04:20:00.000-08:00

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!

His Birthday

2009-08-05T04:31:00.001-07:00

The hot tea was dripping inside throat. I am sitting near the window and watching kids paying in the garden. Wanted to call them inside as it was drizzling but they looked careless of getting wet.

The calendar on the table grabbed my attention. It is 21st November today. I grew old over the years, crossed many stages in life, saw quite a few ups and downs, but still the day is clear in my memory when I took part in my friend’s birthday.

The first meet was very casual and somehow I didn’t like the shirt what he was wearing. I came to know his name by an email dropped in my mail box early in the morning saying its his birthday today. I don’t know what made me to wish him immediately, just did that as if I know him since years..! Who knew he will become a part of my life in the future ! All I noticed was his smile !

He was a perfect blend of maturity, intelligence and smart. Just that he has created a wall around him so that he can get away from all the troubles which can affect him and his family. No one knew what he is from deep inside. But somehow he was an open book for me, I read him line by line, word by word. He is sweet, caring and also a responsible guy. The cutest of all was his smile.

I took almost 2 years to get him out of that shell. I didn’t believe my ears when he called me his girlfriend. He celebrated his birthday twice in those years, I wanted to be alone with him on that day, which never happened. I used to be very naughty with him, careless about his reactions. But then he accepted me as I am.

Years gone, became close, so close that he used to advice me what medicine to take during difficult periods. There was nothing which have I hidden from him and same with him too. In the mean time, another girl entered his life on his big day of life. Though I didn’t attend the function, I was sitting somewhere alone and wishing for all the success and happiness for the future. For sometime we were in touch through mails and calls, it gradually reduced later. Last time I met him was to receive the invitation and wished him luck with a warm hug. But then he was blind to see my tears. ! Yes, he was going away day by day.

Last week, when I was shopping for vegetables in the market, a familiar voice got into my ears, and I just turned back. It was him with a lady next to him. May be his wife. While I was still wondering should I go and talk to him, he looked at me and he almost screamed ! He is still the same, except lot of weight and almost no hair on his head. But then, his million dollar smile, for which I used to admire him a lot, has the same sweetness. I took a long breath as my heart was beating twice than the normal. He came near me and introduced his wife. My eyes were searching for something, he noticed that, I guess and he said kids are with mom..! I had a lot to talk to him, but somehow my tongue refused to do its part. I just swallowed everything and came home back. I even forgot to give them address though I invited them home.

And today its his birthday, I wanted to wish him, but I don’t have his number. I looked outside, the rain has stopped and children were still playing. Everything is still the same just that years gone by and everything has become a memory. My wishes remained as wishes forever.

The magic of “giving”..!!

2008-06-16T02:24:00.001-07:00

I was reading newspaper today, and an article with the above title grabbed my attention.

It is what you can give that shows your real worth. Once in everybody’s lifetime, a bit of magic that reminds them of the importance of the word “give”. As they say, it’s more blessed to give than to receive. Giving and receiving is like action and reaction in each and every day life. Receiving is always based on what we give to others. If we can give a pinch of love, we will get handful in return.

I believe in giving without any expectations in return. That way I feel more content, happy and satisfied when I see the other person who received. It can be in terms of happiness, advice, or sometimes even finance also, but for the people who is really in the need.

An incident which happened some 5-6 years back, reminds me how giving can be more satisfied. It was only few months after my marriage, my brother was supposed to get operated on his nose as he had breathing problem. I joined my mother in taking care of home and my brother too. My brother was so attached to me; I had to be with him whole day in the hospital. One day, after getting discharged, I came back to hospital with him for the general check up. We were waiting in the out-patient department, I saw an old women sitting on the floor and crying. There was no one seemed to be with her. I couldn’t stop myself helping her out. I asked her gently, that what was her problem and whom is she waiting for. She wiped her tears as she wanted somebody to listen to her and started. She was from some other city and came down to see her son who is married and got settled in Shimoga. One day morning when she was cleaning and washing the compound area, a person on the scooter hit her, when she fell down, the front tyre passed on her right hand. She was screaming out of the pain, but that person didn’t even look back and ran from there as if it becomes a police case. Her son, being so poor, couldn’t take her to any hospital immediately. Next day, when she started crying as she couldn’t resist, her son took her to a government hospital, asked her to wait for the doctor and left from there as he has to go to his daily earning work.

My heart cried for her. I didn’t find her fraudulent, because her hand was swollen and the tears were not stopping out of the pain. I couldn’t help her much apart from giving handful of money out of what I had that time. My tears wished her to get well soon. She did refuse to take money from me initially, but when I forced her to take, she held my hand and said, she’ll be my daughter in the next life and serve me her whole life and also said, God will surely help me when I’m in the need.

This kind of incident never happened in my life, but her blessings worked many a times, I feel. My brother became alright soon. Next year, my husband had to be hospitalized for two months because of some problem in his backbone. I cried and prayed God by my heart for him. Doctor had told us that he might not lead the normal life once he gets operated.

May be that old women’s blessings were with me, he soon became alright surprisingly with a normal treatment and now we are leading a happy life. I often remember that lady who blessed me whole heartedly.

Just a small help to someone, brought so much into my life. As said in Bhagavadgeeta, “Karmanye vadhikaraste, ma phaleshu kadachana” I do my best without expecting the results and so I will be happy.

My re-incarnation

2008-06-16T02:23:00.001-07:00

Reincarnation is the next birth of a soul after the death. It is a belief that soul will never die, it is only the body which gets released. The cycle of death and rebirth is governed by karma, which is the sum of one's actions, and the force that determines one's next reincarnation. One is reborn on account of desire: a person desires to be born because he or she wants to enjoy worldly pleasures, which can be enjoyed only through a body. After many births, every person eventually becomes dissatisfied with the limited happiness that worldly pleasures can bring. At this point, a person begins to seek higher forms of happiness, once all desires for the pleasures of the world will vanish, the person will not be reborn anymore. When the cycle of rebirth thus comes to an end, a person is said to have attained moksha, or salvation.

Keeping the beliefs and theories apart, my desire is to be helpful to every one on the earth without expecting anything in return. If given chance, I would like to reborn as a “Mango Tree”, so that I can provide the protection, good health and be useful even after the death. Once my desires get fulfilled and based on the karma that I do being a mango tree, I will not have a re-birth and be with GOD as an angel.

ಹೇಳಿ ಹೋಗು ಕಾರಣ....

2008-05-13T22:29:00.000-07:00

ಹೇಳ ಹೆಸರಿಲ್ಲದ ಹಲವು
ಕಾರಣಗಳು ಮನ ನೋಯಲು
ಆಪ್ತವಾಗಿರಲಿ ಈ ಹಂಗು ಸಾಕು
ಕಾದಿದೆ ಆ ಒಂದು ಕ್ಷಣ ನೀ
ತೆರೆವ ಬಾಗಿಲಿಗೆ,ಕರೆವ ದನಿಗೆ
ಪುಟ ತೆರೆದಿದೆ ಇನ್ನೂ ಅಲ್ಲೆ
ನೀನಿಲ್ಲದ ಖಾಲಿತನ ಹಿಂಡುತ್ತಿದೆ
ಎದೆ ಹೊತ್ತಿ ಉರಿಯುತ್ತಿದೆ
ಉಸಿರು ಬತ್ತಿ ಸಾಯುತ್ತಿದೆ
ದಿಕ್ಕು ಬದಲಾದರೇನಂತೆ
ಹಾದಿ ಬಯಲಾದರೇನಂತೆ
ಒಮ್ಮೆ ಹೇಳಿ ಹೋಗು ಕಾರಣ
ಮರೆವೆನೆಂದು ಕುಳಿತರೆ
ನಿನ್ನ ನೆನಪುಗಳ
ಮೆರವಣಿಗೆಗಳ ಸಾಲು ಸಾಲು
ಮರಳಿ ಬರಲಾರದ ಹೃದಯವ
ನೆನೆದು ಮನದ
ಮುಗಿಲೊಳಗೀಗ ಮಳೆಯಿಲ್ಲ..!!

To my best friend..

2008-05-13T22:21:00.000-07:00

I accept you in confidence,
I listen and admire your wisdom.
We are one when we are together,
You and I will always be friends.

When you are angry,
I am there to sooth your aggression.
When you are sad,
I am there to cheer you up.

What we enjoy doing together comes natural,
We accept life and move ahead.
We have a trust that is very rare,
You and I will always be friends.

ನಿನ್ನ ನಿರೀಕ್ಷೆಯಲ್ಲಿ...

2007-10-09T19:43:00.000-07:00

ನೀನಂದು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಹೋದ ನನ್ನ ಕೈಗಳಲ್ಲಿನ್ನೂ
ನಿನ್ನ ಬಿಸುಪು, ಸ್ಣಿಗ್ಧತೆ, ಮಾರ್ಧವತೆ ಮತ್ತು
ಒಂದಿಸ್ತು ತಂಪು ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಾಗೇ
ಉಳಿದಿದೆ...

ನೀನಂದು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಹೋದ ಹಾದಿಯಲ್ಲಿನ್ನೂ
ಕೆಂಡ ಸಂಪಿಗೆ ಕಂಪು, ಸೂರ್ಯಾಸ್ತದ ಕೆಂಪು
ಹೂ ಮಾರುವ ಮುದುಕಿಯ ಬೊಚ್ಚು ಬಾಯ
ಇಷ್ತಗಲದ ನಗೆ ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಾಗೇ ಉಳಿದಿದೆ...

ನೀನಂದು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಹೋದ ಬೀದಿ ತಿರುವಿನ
ಮಿನಾರಿನ ಗುಂಬಜಿನಲ್ಲಿ ನಿನ್ನ ಖಿಲ್ಲನೆ ನಗೆ
ಅಜಾನಿನಂತೆ ರಿಂಗನಿಸುತ್ತಾ
ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಾಗೇ ಉಳಿದಿದೆ...

ನೀನಂದು ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಹೋದ ನಿನ್ನ ನೆನಪುಗಳಿನ್ನೂ
ದೊಡ್ಡ ದನಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ರಣಕೇಕೆ ಹಾಕುತ್ತಾ ನನ್ನೆದೆಯಲ್ಲಿ
ಇಣುಕಿ ನೋಡಬಲ್ಲಸ್ತು ದೊಗರು ಮಾಡುತ್ತಾ
ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಾಗೇ ಉಳಿದಿದೆ...

ನಾನಲ್ಲೇ ಉಳಿದಿದ್ದೇನೆ; ಸಂತೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಅಮ್ಮನ
ಕೈ ಬೆರಳು ತಪ್ಪಿದ ಕಂಗಾಲು ಮಗುವಿನಂತೆ
ಕಣ್ಣಿಗಡರಿದ ಧೂಳು ಒರೆಸಲೂ ಮರೆತಂತೆ
ಹಸಿದ ಬೆವಾರಿಸು ಜೀವ ಹಿಡಿ ಅನ್ನಕ್ಕೆ ಕಾದಂತೆ
ಮತ್ತು ಇನ್ನೂ ಹಾಗೇ.....

ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

2007-10-08T22:38:00.000-07:00

ನೀ ಸೂರ್ಯ
ಸೂರ್ಯಕಾಂತಿ ನಾನು
ನಿನ್ನ ಸುತ್ತ ಪರಿಭ್ರಮಿಸಿ
ತನ್ನದೇ ಪಥ ಅಕ್ಷಗಳನ್ನು
ಸೃಜಿಸಿಕೊಂಡ ಪ್ರುಥೆ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ನೀ ಚಂದ್ರ
ಕೊಳದ ನೈದಿಲೆ ನಾನು
ಎಲೆಯ ಮೇಲಣ ನೀರ ಹನಿಯನ್ನು
ಮುತ್ತಿನಂತೆ ಸಿಂಗರಿಸುವ
ಪ್ರತಿಫಲಿಸುವ ಸಂಭ್ರಮ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ನೀ ಕಡಲ ತಡಿ
ನಿನ್ನ ತಾಕುವ ಬೆಲ್ನೊರೆ ಅಲೆ ನಾನು
ಬೊಬ್ಬಿರಿದು ಅಬ್ಬರಿಸಿ ಉಬ್ಬಿ
ಕೆನೆದು ತೊನೆದು, ಬಂದು ಸಿಡಿದು
ನಿನ್ನ ಭೇಟಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಶಾಂತ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ನೀ ತಾಯಿ
ಬೊಚ್ಚು ಬಾಯ ಮಗು ನಾನು
ಅತ್ತು ಕರೆದು ರಚ್ಚೆ ಹಿಡಿದು
ಚಂಡಿ ಮಾಡಿ; ಅಂಡಾಗುಂಡಿ
ನಿನ್ನಪ್ಪುಗೆಯ ಹಪಹಪಿ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ನೀ ಕವಿ
ನಿನ್ನ ಕವಿತೆ ನಾನು
ಬರೆದು ಹರಿದು ಮತ್ತೆ
ಮತ್ತೆ ತೇಪೆ ಹಚ್ಛಿ ಹೊಲಿದ
ರೂಪಕಗಳ ನಡುವೆ ಮರೆತ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ನೀ ಪ್ರಾಪ್ತಿ
ಪ್ರತೀಕ್ಷೆಯ ಹಣತೆ ನಾನು
ನಿನಗೆಂದೇ ತೊಳಲಾಡಿ, ಒಳಗೇ ಮಿಡುಕಾಡಿ
ಭ್ರೂಣವಾಗಿ, ಮಗುವಾಗಿ, ಮುಗ್ಧವಾಗಿ, ಸ್ಣಿಗ್ಧವಾಗಿ
ಕೊನೆಗೆ ನಿನ್ನಿಂದಲೇ ದಗ್ಧ - ನನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿ

ದೂರ ತೀರ ಯಾನ

2007-09-24T22:13:00.000-07:00

ಅವಳು ಹೆಜ್ಜೆಯಿತ್ತು ಮೇಲೆತ್ತಿದಲ್ಲಿ ಉಂಟಾಗುತ್ತಿದ್ದ ತಗ್ಗಿನಲ್ಲಿ ಬುರುಗು ನೀರು ಮತ್ತೆ ತುಂಬಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದನ್ನು ಗಮನಿಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದವನು ಇದ್ದಕ್ಕಿದ್ದಂತೆ " ಅರೆರೆ, ಇವಳ ಪಾದಗಳನ್ನು ಗಮನಿಸಿರಲೇ ಇಲ್ವಲ್ಲ !" ಎಂಬ ಉದ್ಗಾರದೊಂದಿಗೆ ಉಪ್ಪು ನೀರು ತೊಳೆದ ಬೆಳ್ಲನೆಯ ಪಾದಗಳನ್ನು ದಿಟ್ತಿಸುತ್ತಾ ಅವಳ ಮಗ್ಗುಲಲ್ಲೇ ಹೆಜ್ಜೆಗೆ ಹೆಜ್ಜೆ ಬೆರೆಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದ.

ಅವಳ ಮಾತುಗಳು ಮೋಡ ಕಡಿದು ಕುಂಭದ್ರೋಣದಂತೆ ಓತಾಪ್ರೋತವಾಗಿ, ವರ್ಷಾತರಗಳಿಂದ ತಡೆ ಹಿಡಿದಿದ್ದ ಒಡ್ದು ಒಡೆದಂತೆ ಧಾರಾಕಾರ ಸುರಿದು ಅವನ್ನನ್ನು ತೋಯಿಸಿ ತೆಪ್ಪಂಡಿ ಮಾಡಿ ಹಾಕಿತ್ತು. ಈಗ ಅವಕ್ಕೂ ರಭಸ ಕಡಿಮೆಯಾಗಿ ಒಂದು ಗತಿ, ಲಯ, ಓಘ ಪ್ರಾಪ್ತವಾಗಿತ್ತು. ಸಕ್ಕರೆಯ ಮರಳು, ತುಟಿಯಂಚಿಗೆ ನಗೆ ಮುಗುಳು... ಅಕ್ಕರೆಯ ಗೆಳತಿ ನಕ್ಕರದೆ ಭಾಗ್ಯ, ಎಂಬಂತೆ ಅವಳನ್ನೇ ದಿಟ್ತಿಸುತ್ತಾ, ಅವಳು ಮಾತಾಡಿ ಆಡಿ ಹಗುರಾಗುತ್ತಿದ್ದ ಪರಿಯನ್ನು ಬಿಟ್ಟಗಣ್ಣು ಬಿಟ್ಟಂತೆ ನೋಡ್ತಾ ನೋಡ್ತಾ ಜೊತೆಗೆ ನಡೆಯುತ್ತಿದ್ದವನಿಗೆ ಗಾಳಿಯಲ್ಲೇ ತೇಲುತ್ತಿರುವಂತೆ ಮೈಯೆಲ್ಲ ಹಿಂಜಿ ಹಾಕಿದ ಹತ್ತಿ.

ಅಷ್ಟು ಚಂದಗೆ ನಗುವ ಜೊತೆಗಾತಿ, ನಡೆಗೊಂದು ಮುದ; ಕಡಲ ಹವೆಯಲ್ಲೊಂದು ಮದ, ಆಬ್ಬಬ್ಬ, ಏನಿತ್ತು, ಏನಿಲ್ಲ ಆ ಕ್ಷಣಗಳಲ್ಲಿ, ಜಗತ್ತಿನ ಮಸ್ತಿಯನ್ನೆಲ್ಲ ಬಸಿದು ತಂದು, ಪರಮ ಸ್ವಾರ್ಥಿಗಳಂತೆ , ಜಿದ್ಡಿಗೆ ಬಿದ್ದ ಮಕ್ಕಳಂತೆ, ಐನ್‌ಸ್ಟೈನ್ ಥಿಯರಿಯಂತೆ, ಪರಸ್ಪರ ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಹೊರಟಂತೆ ಕಾಣಿಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದರು. ಇಬ್ಬರ ಬೆಸೆದ ಕೈಗಳಲ್ಲಿದ್ದ ಬಿಸುಪಿಗೆ ತಮ್ಮೂರು, ಹೇಳಿಬಂದ ಹಲವು ಸುಳ್ಳುಗಳು, ತಪ್ಪಿಸಿ ಬಂದಿದ್ದ ಕಣ್ಣುಗಳ ಜಾತ್ರೆ - ಇವೆಲ್ಲವನ್ನು ಮರೆಸುವ ಮಾಂತ್ರಿಕ ಶಕ್ತಿಯಿತ್ತು. ಕಡಲ ತಡಿಗೆ ಬಂದು ಕೂತು, ತಡಿಗೆ ಬಡಿವ ಅಲೆಗಳ ಮೋಹಕತೆಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಅವಳೂ, ಅದರ ನಿರರ್ಥಕತೆಯ ಬಗ್ಗೆ ಅವನೂ ಚರ್ಚಿಸುತ್ತಾ ಕೂತಿದ್ದು, ಚರ್ಚೆಗೆ ಕಾವೇರುವ ಮುನ್ನವೇ ನಿಜವಾಗಿ ಕಾವೇರಿದ್ದ ಮರಳಿನಿಂದ ಮೇಲೆದ್ದು ನಡೆಯಲು ಶುರುವಿಟ್ಟಾಗ ಹೀಗೊಂದು "ದೂರ ತೀರ ಯಾನ" ಶುರುವಾಗಿತ್ತು.

Teachers appreciation day

2007-09-12T02:02:00.000-07:00

Last Wednesday was Teacher's day. I had called my teachers to wish them who are all available in my reach. It is an occasion when a token or appreciation in the form of presents is given to teachers by students to show their love and respect. Once we are out from the school or college, we will stop celebrating the occasion. How many of us are still in touch with our old teachers?

Teachers are responsible for a making a student's life bright. And I have been getting their guidance and support so far. Ever since I joined my preschool, I had a favorite teacher through out my student life. My father was in police department, he used to get transferred to different places frequently. The transfer used to happen so quickly that once we unpack everything, get familiar with the neighbors and make new friends, again transfer. Finally we settled down in Sagar when I joined High school. Till then I have studied in different schools, hence I’m rich in having lot of friends and blessed by number of teachers.

Whatever we learn in school will be the foundation for our lifetime, either professional or personal. That way, I have learnt a lot from my teachers. I must mention one of my teachers in high school – M.S.Rangappa, shortly called as RMS. He was my class teacher and social studies as well. Whatever I learnt from him is still valuable for me and I'm proud to say that I'm upto his expectations. He is the person who made us aware of patriotism. We were so much influenced by his moral classes, I'm not able to cross the line that he had drawn for us. I remember him first on the teachers day.

I do have respect towards all my teachers, but they became my friends when we entered college. Now I should mention Suma Mam for that matter. I used to run to Suma Mam whenever I had problems. She was not only our teacher, but an elder sister, friend, guide and everything.

I never forget to wish them on teachers appreciation day as they have delighted our lives sharing their experiences and knowledge. I believe, whatever I’m now is because of them. They gave me a proper foundation from the beginning so that I can build my life and career as strong as possible. As the saint Shishunala Shariff says – "Guruvina gulamanaguva thanaka, doreyadanna mukuthi" (As long as u don't become a slave of ur teacher, u'll not get enlightened.)

On this occasion, remembering all my teachers, I would like to dedicate these lines for them.

Teachers
Paint their minds
And guide their thoughts
Share their achievements
and advise their faults

For our future brightens
With each lesson you teach
Each smile you lengthen
Each goal you help reach

For the dawn of each poet
Each philosopher and king
Begins with a Teacher
And the wisdom they bring.

The Raga of Rain

2007-09-11T02:21:00.000-07:00

In Carnatic music Amruthavarshini is the raga that is supposed to get the rain. The raga Malhar is a powerful legendary in Hindustani classical music which is equivalent to Amruthavarshini. Even in Puranas, its written that in Thretayug, when Ravana set fire to Hanuman's tail, he set fire to entire Lanka. Then Ravana played the Amruthavarshini raga on his Veena and brought forth rain.

According to the legends, raga Malhar is so powerful that, when sung, it rains. The raga has lost its "swaroop" among the ages because there was no one who could remember its complicated rhythms and beats. Many great artists of Medieval period and much earlier period used to sing this raga.

There are lots of miracles that have taken place and are still taking place by singing and chanting krithis of Sri Muthuswamy Dikshitar. He attained mastery over the Veena, and the influence of Veena playing is evident in his compositions.

Sri Muthuswamy Dikshitar got the wonderful flow of music by the grace of Lord "Kumaraswamy" who put "Kalakanda" in his mouth. Soon he began to sing in praise of the Lord in a unique style by singing a kriti "Anandamritha Varshini" in raga Amruthavarshini", he caused the thunderous clouds to gather over the sky and rain profusely when there were no rains in that region for one year and the people yearned for water.

Once he was passing through the village Ettayapuram in thirunelveli District, there was an acute drought. Since he was well known for his powers, people in the village requested him to get rains in. At their request he sang the same kriti in Amruthavarshini raga. When he sang the line "varshaya varshaya varshaya" it started raining heavily flooding the village and he had to sing the same song with the slight modification. Instead of "varshaya varshaya varshaya", he used "sthambaya sthambaya" to stop the rains.

There are many written accounts of the raga. Meera Bai, the devotee of Lord Krishna is among noble singers those who were capable of having down the rains by various kinds of raga Malhar. She has composed between 200 to 1300 prayerful songs (bhajans), and most passionately praised Lord Krishna.

It is also true that certain ragas cause certain reactions, such as Deepak raga. Infact someone went to the extent of saying that singing this raga could cause a burning sensation and that is why there are no songs that are taught in this raga.

However, raga Amruthavarshini or raga Malhar better not sing in the monsoon season as the rain is already causing damages across the world.

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2007-09-10T20:24:00.000-07:00

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Watch your way..!!

2007-09-09T19:57:00.000-07:00

Human relationships are hardly easy. You never know what you are destined to get. Time is changing and so are the people around us. I wonder if it is the people who are changing the time or is it time which is changing people and their way of apprehending. At every turn of life, at every step, we take someone or the other is ready to stab us in the back which jolts us out of place. It is like being alone in the crowd.

Every face has a lovely smile, but what lies behind that smile is the question. Sometimes everything and every person seems to be so simple and yet at precesely that moment they become comlplete strangers.

Shakespeare rightly said the world is a stange and every person has a role to play. But who casts these roles? Who frames the charecters? Who draws the lines in relationships? If it is the people themselves, then what makes them go off track? There have never been answers to these questions nor does it look like there is ever going to be an answer.

No matter how close a bond one shares with the other, everyone thinks about his interests first. Sometimes we rightly think it is the deeds of the man which make for his charecter, his humanitarian outlook, his commitment to a relationship, etc.

So see and think, think and apprehend, apprehend and speak. And just learn the magic of words to survive in this world.

Source: Times

Friendship means a lot..

2007-09-07T05:13:00.000-07:00

Yesterday it rained. In the evening I was the last one to enter the shuttle and was fully wet. Then we moved after 5 mins, and it was raining till I reach home. It rained like the nature is missing someone and tears busted out. Yes, missing somebody is really painful; it can be your sweetheart, the best pal, parents who stay away, kids or even the pets. Pain of missing friends is not their absence, but its when you think of the good times you have shared and you ask yourself that will those moments ever come again.

Friends play an important role in everybody’s life. Starting from the Play home, till the time we get retired from life. And each one leaves a foot print to remember them till the end. School, college days, last bench chatting, silly fights, under bench munching, those good teachers, naughty love stories, outstood classes, canteen, birthday treats, bunking for movies, those never written postponed tests, last minute preparations all remain fresh in our memories.

I’m always rich having a huge number of friends. We have been sharing knowledge, experience and even the hidden feelings. Some of them are still with me hanging around whenever we get time, some keep touch in mails, calls and some are really invisible. And a very few flew away with the wind without even letting me know the reason. Though they are away, the time I spent with them, knowledge gained being with, will never be lost.

What would I expect from them as a gift ? One of their qualities which I like most.. Though I cannot take each and everybody’s name, I can list very few now.

Karthik: Timely suggestion
Anil: Patience
Pramod: Open heart
Suhas: Intelligence
Sandy: Fun loving
Ritu: Professionalism
Rashmi: Helping nature
Nee: Keeping trust
Mamtha: love for the family
Deepa: Being practical
Mary: Liveliness
Vinu: Leadership
Pammi: Determination
Jai: Skill of writing
Santhu: Understanding
Balu: Friendly smile
Sathya: Involvement
Prashanthi: Comfortable companionship
Praveen: Simplicity
Sagar: Self control
Sushanth: Faith
Arun: Caring
Pramod: Honesty (actually I need all his qualities..!)

And the list goes on….

What happens if I get all these ?? I’m the rich one in the whole world…!!!

Friendship needs no promises, no demands, no expectations. It starts with a smile, increases with understanding and ends only with death.

Here it goes...my first blog..!!

2007-09-04T03:54:00.000-07:00

This is my first blog. So from now onwards everything from personal diary to web directly.

Ever since I joined Wipro, my life has become hell because of its working hours. Its really hard to manage professional and personal life during the weekdays. I’ll be waiting for the weekend, so that I can freak out as much as I can..!!

But on the other side, its new role and responsibility, so fair enough to give justice to my dream of having lot of work in hand, always busy with something. I have set up my goals and objectives for the next one year at Wipro, and trying hard to achieve the goal.

What I like most in Wipro…

The green garden and trees around
The specious walk-around corridor
My team mates (all girls..!!)
Buddies from previous company

What I don’t like in Wipro…

Process, process and process, result at the end of a lenthyyyyy process..!!!
Chapatis in the canteen..!!
9 .5 working hours…!!!!